I did re-read your first post and can now see that you were trying to describe how to avoid letting them fight to the death. I stand corrected.
The rest of the thread seems to have spiraled downward from there.
As far as your last reply; I am going to abstain from breaking down each point and replying even though some of them would solicit some response. As site founder, I've found it's simply a no win situation to try.
So I will just say this: having experience ahead of you is not such a bad thing. I recall the day I met you on Monomoy.
To me discovery is the best part of fishing. Maybe it's best to have something to discover ahead of us as we put experience behind us. I have put plenty behind, and still have plenty ahead. I like it that way.
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