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06-26-2002, 09:10 AM
On a bright note my girlfriend dumped me last night. The reasoning you may ask? My hobby! I spend too much time tying flies and fishing. Now you tell me, is 2-3 days a week too much? The 2-3 days are usually weekdays as so I can take the ungrateful pain in my ass to dinner and blow my hard earned cash treating her like a queen on the weekends! Well now I have 7 days a week to fish and all my well earned loot can go towards new gear and to save for my 18ft Maritime w/ Poling Platform and rear casting deck.

Now if the fish start to argue with me and my dream boat gives me lip I will be really P/O.:devil:

06-26-2002, 09:24 AM
:rolleyes: congradulations on you disengagement. :devil: Tom D

06-26-2002, 10:21 AM
Let me mix some paraphrases... "can't live with 'em, can't live without 'em - but if you try sometime you just might find what you need."

The right one is out there - but I do commend you - don't settle for less than the right one!

ps. I amost forgot - 3 more sleeps until my wife and I come out to your coast for for our 25th Wedding Anniversary trip - that includes 10 days fishing the Cape (and it was her idea!). Like I said, they are out there.

06-26-2002, 10:33 AM
I always liked, "can't live with em, can't leave them by the side of the road"

THe right one is out there. Mine just told me I shold buy a boat I was looking at..... Sorry, her sisters are all married.

06-26-2002, 11:10 AM

When I was chasing women in my twenties, I relegated my fly fishing days to during the week when I could take off to the NY catskills for trout or perhaps the delaware for shad. None of the ladies I dated or married (now 25 years) were into fishing.

Good luck with new extra time and funds for fishing? :hehe:


What a new drift boat is in your plans now ?


06-26-2002, 11:12 AM
Roop --

my offer for a test drive still stands....


06-26-2002, 11:45 AM
I'm sure one of these days the right little lady will walk into my life. Until that day I will fish and enjoy the company and conversation of good friends. Maybe the next one will appreciate the fact I'm not out grabb'n hiney at the local watering hole with the fella's.

If I am truely lucky I may find one with a love of the water and a new 20ft Action Craft!

( A man can dream can't he? )

On a side note Mark Sedotti called me last night to report the Cinder Worm Hatch is in full swing in Port Chester Harbor as well as Cos Cobb. Hopefully we will get out on Thursday night if conditions are right.

06-26-2002, 12:11 PM
You lucked out man. Better to find out now.

"Can't live with em , can't shoot em". :devil:

06-26-2002, 12:29 PM
You all are right. Better to find out know before I go blow my boat money on a shiney rock! Although I have the same feeling as the day I lost a 30lb Stripe 6 ft from shore due to a faulty knot. I'm sure everyone has been there. As crappy as I may feel I still have a good out look. As the saying goes " There are pleanty of fish in the sea". They may not be blitzing around me but a few swirls and boils keeps me in the game.:D

06-26-2002, 12:45 PM
have a 16' glass boat in the side yard that's never seen the water on the Rogue. Days and days on the Chetco when we had our second home in Brokings, OR. Good thing about being on the top end of the river is there is a lot of public access to the river; much of it seeing very little use. Example: took my neighbors father out this weekend below Touvelle Park boat launch. In about 3000 yards of river front we were the only two bank anglers.

ST69: Sometimes Bad news can be good news. Poor example of this is my first wife and I were married for over 23 years. The first 10-12 were a lot of fun .... the rest pure hell. When we split up I had the great fortune to meet Joan and it's been the best 17 years of my adult male life. Even our respective kids like each other. Also pretty hard for 'wife #1' to speak poorly of her when, if it weren't for 'she's got my husband,' theirs nothing negative to say.

06-26-2002, 02:22 PM
Thanks to all of you for the pep talk! It sure helps to know that everyone else has been there and done that. Actually I'm looking forward to some downtime for myself instead if running all over the country side every day. I can finally watch ESPN outdoors in the morning in peace and quiet. I can finally finish my Spey Rod and spend some time learning to cast it. The future is looking brighter by the minute.:smokin:

Tod D
06-26-2002, 03:34 PM
Mike - FWIW, was dumped a few years back (well, ok 15) while in college by my 'sweetheart'. Devastated.

One year later, after she'd graduated I met a sweet little frosh. We start dating, I eventually meet her folks. Turns out her dad fishes, flyfishes actually. Oh, did she mention he's a bit fanatical? At the time, I did not flyfish.

15 years later (9 married), we have 3 boys, a house, about 10 flyrods, a canoe & a kayak, and my biggest fishing buddies are my dad-in-law, bro-in-law and brother. Wife doesn't complain too much - it was all her fault for inviting my to CT to meet her folks back in the summer of '88! Alas she has not sisters, but...

They're out there!

06-26-2002, 03:48 PM
A few years back I met a girl whose father was an author of some flyfishing book and for the life of me I cant remember her name or his. I blew her off because she was a bit to crabby and stuffy for my likings.

A friend of mine met a woman who flyfished and tied her own flies and as rumor had it was a "wild thang"

Why he dumped her I'll never know! He's married now to another woman but every now and again he'll mention her in conversation. She must have tied one hell of a fly if he still brings her up.;)

06-26-2002, 05:31 PM
I just looked at my original post.... I hope it was taken in the humorous spirit I meant it. I've been thru 2 divorces, and can tell you from experience... "it's worth waiting for the right one" my wife of 12 yrs(my 3rd) bought me a sweet boat(Jones Bros.) for my 50th birthday (and she doesn't fish or care much for boating). keep the faith Mike... be good, and good will come to you. Tom D

06-26-2002, 05:53 PM
My wife doesn't fish..never did...she gives me trouble every now and then but it's because I do have certain responsibilities with three kids...but all in all it works out , after all there has to be certain things we just don't have in common. Beside how would I be able to get away from it all if she was making those great solitary walks down the beach with me at 5 am. Mike..don't worry about it.

06-26-2002, 06:31 PM
To quote a very famous ball player - "I consider myself the luckiest man on the face of the Earth". I've worked things out in the fishing time department successfully with my wonderful wife by way of several different tactics over the years - but in all cases she really has been a true friend.

Sure there have been times when my addiction was cause for disagreement, but ohhhh I paid for it. During this most recent phase she agrees with the logic completely.... I book guide jobs, I hand over all my earnings when I get home. It's "work"... no brainer! ;)

Seriously, she has always afforded me time to pursue my passion for the sport. With a second college kid starting in September she'd rather have me doing some guiding on the weekend than drinking a beer watching the matinee baseball games.

We are down the cape together just about every weekend, so we still have our time together with the kids even on "working" days. It hasn't been without trying moments, but at no time was there a lack of the most important thing - caring about each other more than all the trivial stuff like fishing (in comparison).

Parting joke (oldie but goodie) - Looking for woman who likes to fish and has boat with motor. Send picture of boat and motor :devil:

06-27-2002, 08:38 AM
Being of a relatively young age I still have pleanty of time for my "special someone" to come along and hopefully I will have many more years of fishing ahead of me. With my new found time and money I plan on pursuing some interests such as studying for the Captains test. I'm still a little green when it comes to boating and navigation but we all must start somewhere. As a kid I always wanted a boat and to take people out. Many of woman has shed the shadow of doubt upon me telling me its a foolish dream and not a reality. This time I will chase my dream and prove all the nay sayers wrong!

And when that day comes when my screen name changes to Capt. Steelhead you all will be awarded free charters with me. :D

06-27-2002, 09:11 AM
I have to say that I truly love my wife, and she truly hates my fly fishing (sometimes).

I am a little curious how a forum poll would turn out. Here are your choices:

1. An all tackle world record caught on fly. (in your chosen species)
2. A marriage..........I'm not talking about giving up a partner. Just slip of paper that says you have legally agreed to share assets.

Forget C&R........ there is a delima for you :confused:


06-27-2002, 10:01 AM
I'd take the record! Here's my reasoning.

#1 The record will not talk back or complain that you went fishing!

#2 The record will provide income, not suck it from your wallet.

#3 When someone breaks your record you still keep ALL the money not just half.

Doc Duprey
06-27-2002, 10:26 AM
Been studying women for most of my life, and there are two things I have learned...

1) Most of what I think I know about women is wrong.

2) When you find the right one, fishing, hunting, and all those other things we enjoy will fall into their proper perspective.

Juro, I enjoyed your story. I too have a wonderful and understanding partner...who taught me to fish 25 years ago. Since then, she and I have shared many a wonderful day astream. We are now exploring the new world of salt water angling with a fly, together. All I can say is that it has made the peaks higher, and the valleys of life a lot easier to walk out of.

And no, she doesn't have a sister...sorry.

Steelheadmike, hold on to those dreams! With a bit of luck, you may find a lady who shares them. But never give up!

Just my $0.02

Your mileage may vary.


06-27-2002, 11:15 AM
Hey John,

I'll take the happy marriage. That's not to say I plan to give up any World Record aspirations! :devil:

What part of AR do you live in?? I fish the White River occasionally, usually in the Rim Shoals area, when out visiting my dad in Mountain Home. A very interesting fishery that I enjoy exploring when in the area.



06-27-2002, 11:19 AM
I was once told by an old-timer that woman are the spawn of the devil. You may ask how he came up with that theory? His logic went as follows:

What other creature on earth can bleed for a week and not die?

Although I am not a beleiver in the fact that women are evil his arguement was pretty convincing.

One can only learn that kind of wisdom from old fisherman. I did learn the hard way never to repeat such tid-bits of information in mixed company.( I still walk with a slight limp ) :eyecrazy:

06-27-2002, 12:35 PM

At the very least you avoided a divorce. To quote Rodney, "Yeah my wife was into group sex. She screwed me in front of the jury". :devil:

06-27-2002, 02:44 PM

I guide the White and Norfork river systems. I actually live about 150 miles south of there, but I have a small plane and I leave a car at the airport. It's a great fishery to say the least. With all the high water we have Rim shoal will be unbelievable as soon as the water goes down. Yell at me the next time you take a trip to visit the folks.


06-27-2002, 02:54 PM
Hey now, you can't criticize women. They are in command, really. They control half the money in the universe and all the sex. ;)

06-27-2002, 03:32 PM
Good point Juro. I wanna know who the hell the guy was that gave them that job. Because if I find him I'd like to string him up by toes and whip him with a 3wt! :hehe: