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: Trying to get the wife into it.

06-17-2002, 05:31 PM
I have been trying to get it in her head that she wants to at least try to go out fishing with me (hell, my 2 year old daughter likes to go - but she needs constant attention, so I do the worm and bobber thing with her)

Anyway, my last attempt to get the wife to join me went something like this:

me - "You know, honey, anytime you want to go out with me to a lake or river, I will do whatever I have to to make it happen"

wife - "I can't go fishing, it just seems so cruel when you think about it. The poor fish is just trying to get a bite to eat, and then gets pulled all over creation by the lip, hoisted out of the water, a flash from your camera and then thrown back in... can you imagine it being reversed?"

me - "reversed, yeah right! Anyway, if it wasn't for me fishing, that fish would probably not be alive. almost all of the native trout in NH are not here anymore. Everything just about comes from the hatcheries, which I PAY for with my license each year. And the only reason they are bred is to be put in the water to get a hook in their mouth.
So, if it wasn't for me he never would have existed. That is a whole hell of a lot better than getting a hook in the mouth. Also, I catch and release, he could have a much worse fate than that!"

wife - "You are a twisted _)&*(^, you know that?"

me - "Maybe, but will you go fishing now?"

wife - funny look - "no."

06-17-2002, 06:42 PM
GOOD LUCK! Sounds like you have your work cut out for ya!;)

Guess I'm lucky, I just had to get my wife to try it once and she was hooked.

06-17-2002, 07:07 PM
Well you may be in a no win situation. We do practice a blood sport no matter how we try to sugar coat it with C&R , barbless hooks, blah blah blah.

I am able to weigh the good and bad and morally have no problem with it but that is not the case with everyone. My finacee for one will not fish. She is a vegetarian and thinks the fishies should be left alone.

I have given up trying to convert her but still like to have her along with me. She likes to get out and explore the beach while I am fishing and takes pictures. She also enjoys being out in a boat with me or hiking into mountain lakes for the scenery.

She may not be fishing with me but she still enjoys some aspects of fishing like I do. Namely getting away for a day and enjoying the outdoors.

works for me and no tailing loops and line tangles to help undo. I have enough of those myself to keep me plenty busy. :rolleyes:


John Desjardins
06-17-2002, 09:05 PM
Good luck Stone,

I know exactly where you are. I've been there. The key is your daughter, just keep it fun and she will want to go with you and you'll be able to go anytime you take her. Two is a bit young for you to actually fish but my oldest is six, and I can sneak in a few casts now & then. Hopefully both of our wifes will want to come some day.

And you didn't even talk about having to admit her weight to get a license. :devil: :devil:

06-17-2002, 10:22 PM
Yeah, same feeling here. My wife has no interest in going fishing, though she'll sit in the truck in a shady spot and read a book while I go out and cast for a couple of hours. I've offered to get her a nice camera so she can take up photography as a hobby (which would, of course, necessitate that she come along with me on outings to take photos of the beautiful landscapes, hence enabling me to get out on the water more often), but she says, "Do you know how much that camera you want costs?"
"Yeah, $260, why?"
"We're not paying that for a camera! We have other things to save for."
in my mind, thinking, "Yeah, like another new rod, and by the way would you care to know what my last reel cost?", but I wisely keep those thoughts to myself.:whoa:
My one hope is that my kids (which are as of yet to be conceived) are fishing nuts like I was when I was little. Until then, I have to settle for the occasional read-in-the-truck deal, but I'll take what I can get.

06-18-2002, 01:49 AM
or do what I do...just search for one that already has the bug or is dying to learn.

They are out there...although they tend to be a little older then 21...but they are also tough to find. Hence the reason I spend more time at home then 'out'...I guess I am just to picky!!

Had my chance with one that was dying to learn to flyfish but for other reasons that did not work out. :( :mad: Which was followed by a girl that thought fishing was oh so cruel and was a member of PETA...needless to say, that didnt work out!!! :rolleyes:

06-18-2002, 08:11 AM
My wife told me she was going to start flyfishing with me before this season started last winter. I reminded her a few times, and she said if I ever mention it again she won't. ArrrRRgggGGGG!!! :)


06-18-2002, 09:10 AM
Two is a bit young for you to actually fish...

Yup, but the fact that she enjoyed being out with Dad at two is GREAT!

BTW, she saw the clunker of a spinning rod I have (the one I use when I go with her, and that is the ONLY time it doesn't collect dust) and she threw a hissy fit because she wanted to go fishing!

I just smiled. It was too late to go out, but next time I want to get out of the house, you can guarranty that thing will be just lying around somewhere to catch her eye!


06-18-2002, 09:18 AM
I fish to get away from my wife.

John Desjardins
06-18-2002, 09:27 AM
Stone, I agree with you. A childs enjoying going fishing with you is priceless. I figure if I can keep the kids interested eventually she will come along, if only to take pictures.

Dble Haul
06-18-2002, 09:37 AM
I guess that I should continue to count my blessings. My wife fishes, but not nearly as much as I do. But because she does, she understands where my passion for the sport comes from, and that goes a looooooong way.

She likes to tie flies (nymphs are her current specialty) and see me catch fish on them. She likes to take pics of me out in the places that we fish. And she likes to catch a few herself. She's awfully cute when she starts talking to the fish that she's trying to catch.

We recently had our one year anniversary. My gift to her was a 5 wt flyrod and reel combo. I hadn't received a reaction like that to a gift since I gave her the engagement ring nearly three years ago. She's already caught many sunfish on it, and looks forward to getting more.

I'm not saying that we always go fishing together; in fact, many times I go fishing to spend time by myself. But when she does come along it's rewarding to see her develop as an angler in her own right. And like I said before, her development as an angler helps her understand my desire to fish long hours by myself or "with the guys".

06-18-2002, 01:32 PM
my buddy simply rolls over and says, "Sex or fishing?"

She always answers the same way: "Take a sweater."

06-18-2002, 03:09 PM
My girlfriend didn't fish when we first started seeing each other. I warned her at the outset that I was a fisherman, and that I spend long hours on the water at all times of the day and night. She said, "Well, I guess you'll just have to teach me how to fish!" Now she's got her own spinning rod and some lures and will come out with me once in a while when the weather is nice. She doesn't like to fish for more than a couple hours at a time, so she usually takes her own car so that she can leave when she wants. I haven't been able to convince her to try fly fishing yet, but I'm working on it!


06-18-2002, 03:21 PM
punch line
my buddy simply rolls over and says, "Sex or fishing?"

She always answers the same way: "Take a sweater."

So the question is, which would HE prefer?

06-18-2002, 03:31 PM
Originally posted by Sprocket
my buddy simply rolls over and says, "Sex or fishing?"

She always answers the same way: "Take a sweater."

I must have some SKILLS, because for me, she always answers with the 'other' choice!! :devil: :devil: :devil: :smokin:

06-18-2002, 10:14 PM
for him, it's a win-win proposition: he's done and awake, might as well go fishing! :D

06-23-2002, 03:16 PM
My girlfriend usually says "Let's have sex, THEN go fishing". And anyone who's met her knows I'm right. lol

But when I met my girlfriend. She wasn't much into fishing. But she was from Georgia and where she lived I guess there wasn't much prowess except for Bass. She didn't care for them all that much the few times she fished for them. Then, she moved up here to Washington State. Met me. Then I got her hooked on Salmon and Steelhead in WA. I have a picture of her first outing on the Nooch. I brought a fly rod and a spinning rod for her to try out. She got hooked on both. Now she's trying to get her fly throwing down and guess what? She wants to learn how to throw the spey once I get mine down. Luckily I do have a backup spey, so we're set. I guess I have the best of both worlds.

I do have one suggestion though. And for some guys, this is REALLY hard to do. If she's ready to go fishing, hire a guide and let her go with them (and you can tag along too). For some reason, much easier for a significant other to listen to someone else then YOU. Plus, a guide always seems to get someone new into fish much easier. Maybe because that's their job, whereas you want to hook your own fish (come on guys, admit it, even when you want to teach, you still long to get your fly into the zone). Once they nail that first fish, they're usually either completely hooked, or turned totally off by it. I got my girlfriend into her first fish, a beautiful silver caught on the chehalis. Boy, she had to jump all over my sled trying to keep up with that fish. Now I get the evil eye if I DON'T take her fishing with me. :tsk_tsk: Especially if I hit the Hoh, I have her hooked on the rivers on the Western OP. If I ever wanted to lose my sex privledges, all I need to do is do a trip over there without her. :D

06-23-2002, 03:52 PM
Give up. The best I have done in twenty years is a chance to take nices fishing. Two seem to be a go and two are questionable. If one turns out to like fishing I will be very happy.
The other option is buy a boat and let her drive. Eventually she has to start fishing.

Pat Bahan
06-30-2002, 07:35 AM
Our first date (30+ years ago) was on a party fishing boat out of Key West. My BIG mistake was giving her an Ambassador 2500 for a wedding present, when we married (only 25 years ago) I should have given her a fly outfit. We spent most of our honeymoon in northern Minnesota (Ely & BWCA), and then down on the Chippewa Flowage in Wisconsin. After three weeks of that she thought the Ambassador was the only piece of fishing equiptment that existed and I have never been able to get her to try the fly. She admires my use of the flyrod but just keeps chunking her favorite crankbaits.
BTY, 2 is not to young for kids, but yes it does cramp your fishing. My daughter was cranking in bluegill before 2 and is a very capable angler.
As for the poor guys who have relationships with PETAfiles:tsk_tsk: