: Getting Married
12-28-2000, 08:52 AM
Yes, the days of buying a new sage rod and tibor reel without asking anyone are over. The days when fishing trips to Florida were the first priorities are gone. The days of making fun of you because you had to clear fishing trips with your wives are gone. As of Aug. 3rd I will be married. Upside (besides marrying an awesome lady)is that she is from Utah, an hour from the green river and 20 minutes from the provo and she has a brother that fishes them 30+ days a year.
First and foremost, my most sincere congratulations to you and your future bride!
It sounds like you are moving to Utah? Hey maybe we could come wish you well and for a bachelor party you could hold a massive Utah trout clave http://220.127.116.11/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif
I hope you are still going to join us for the Carolina clave you called... oh yeah, gotta check with the missus! Get used to that, buddy!
Welcome to the club, Nate. All kidding aside, I wish you the very best life can offer. The smiles, laughs and times (good times and hard times) I've shared with my wife and kids have been the heart and soul of my life and in some way my family brings me happiness every single day. I wish you and your bride all that and more.
12-28-2000, 09:22 AM
Congratz on stepping up to the plate and taking a swing. Best of luck (forget luck, it's about commitment to something big). Done right it's the nuts.
12-28-2000, 11:11 AM
Best Wishes & Congratulations to you & your Bride to be. I don't have more to say cause you already said it:
>> The days of making fun of you because you had to clear fishing trips with your wives are gone. <<
>> The days when fishing trips to Florida were the first priorities are gone. <<
12-28-2000, 02:15 PM
Congratulations Nathan, on the lighter side, Just one thing,what do you mean check before you get a rod... don't feel so bad... Take some advice from someone married for 20 years... Pay cash for your stuff, never use a check. No record. The more rods and reels you have the less likely an new one will stick out... it's true.
12-28-2000, 07:55 PM
Nate, Congrats to you and your awsome lady!
Along with all the best wishes, we of the fraternity of MMFF (male married fly fishers), particularily those members who have achieved the Gold (10+years of bliss) or Platinum (15+) level should now bestow upon you the rites of passage into our glorious not-so-secret-society.
Is that a new fishing rod?
Oh no,I'm just testing it for the guys at the shop
I don't remember you having 6 reels...
Well, Dear (the dear is NOT optional here), I have had most of them for a long time....
Are you planning on going fishing this weekend?
Not really, but Juro and the gang are going out (sounding excited) but I don't mind, I'd rather spend the day hanging around the house with you (lot's of low tone grovelling is real helpfull, sad eyes and long depressed breathing often make the deal)
OK Boys, time to fess up and help Nate through his first seaon!
Time to tell all, and of course, no one on the Board will ever reveal our secrets to the stronger side of partnership
Hint #43 -
Everytime you go out and get furniture you didn't really need but she really wanted, it's a good time to come home with that new rod or reel. At least get a line out of it http://18.104.22.168/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif" border="0" align="middle">
Hint #44 -
As John Morin said, start a stack of rod tubes in a closet. Even put the shipping boxes from repair shipments in there, you might need them. Once the stack gets big enough, you can't tell when you've added a new one. Kinda like a school of herring to a gamefish. <img src="http://22.214.171.124/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif" border="0" align="middle">
Hint #45 -
Keep a trip fund in a jar or shoebox. When the opportunity arises, you might need the liquid funds to make that journey. With 3 kids, taking the time is one thing but taking $$ from the family budget for a trip to steelhead nirvana is quite another. I lessen the impact in half by coming home without any charges to the checking account <img src="http://126.96.36.199/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif" border="0" align="middle">
Hint #46 -
Although this never worked for me, do like AL - somehow, someway end up with a wife that loves to fish! (sorry can't help with that one! <img src="http://188.8.131.52/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif )
My best to you guys,
12-28-2000, 09:34 PM
See Nate.. all good advice... Those guys are close to my own heart.. infact I've used the line about having a rod for a "long time".. this statement takes the punch out of the complaint since she can not figure out where the hole is in the budget... an oldie but goodie. You will start to develop your own style ,but that only comes with experience and trial and error. As far as the buget is concerned I used a fool proof method of putting 20 or 35 dollars aside each pay check, and before I knew it I had a new rod. Never but never mention it, let her find it ,then spring the logic , You will find that you will never get into an argument . Of course the danger is at the beginning... aquiring enough rods to hide the latest ones... but don't give up hope. Practice the look of surprise,or hurt.. use the mirror in the bathroom to perfect this... initial reactions are important and can make or break the story as well as body language, Remenber ,you can take control of the situation without jepordising your relationship.. that is the art to master... But you need to start at the beginning... Because the last thing you want to hear is "I can't believe how you've changed" . Your a dead man then.
All kidding aside, marriage was and is the best part of my entire life. I gained a lifelong friend; someone to share triumphs and trials both our own and those of our children; someone who shares a cup of coffee and a laugh with me every morning and regardless of anything that happens is the constant comfort I feel inside.
Back to the discussion at hand... we both try to put spare change aside from our paychecks. One day, she paid off the balance on my old truck loan with her stash! Geesh, and all these years I was just shaving lunch money http://184.108.40.206/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif
i'm so outta here
12-28-2000, 11:53 PM
Nate -- Many happy years!
Sounds like you have nothing to worry about in the fishing department. Yeah, there will be limitations -- a mortgage to worry about, two sets of relatives to visit during the holidays, etc. -- and at least some of your vacation time will go toward non-fishing activities, but so long as she knows how much it means to you, you'll get the nod. Besides, limitations aren't always a bad thing; sometimes they help us savor a thing more fully.
I wish I could take credit for having converted Jen, but the truth is I merely showed her what fly fishing means to me and invited her into that world. From there, she found her own way. She is a powerful force in my life and I can't imagine where I'd be without her. I guess if I had any advice to give it would to find ways of sharing passion. It doesn't have to be limited to the bedroom ;)
12-29-2000, 08:28 AM
Thanks. By the way Juro I'm not moving to Utah. I will be around these parts for a while more. Thanks for the advice too. I think in addition that over the next 6 months I better make all my big purchases, that Winston XTR 8wt is calling my name I think.
12-29-2000, 08:33 AM
Nate, and the the rest of the guys... my threads were only an attenpt at some humor... I agree with all the comments made here ..
12-29-2000, 12:35 PM
Try to go somewhere with lots of fish on your honeymoon http://220.127.116.11/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif
John - I think we all knew you were kidding; we know you're a good father, husband - and son! It was awesome meeting your mother last fall. Talking about jokes, your mom had some good ones for us sitting around the fire!
Despite all our good hubby-ness, I find it funny that there's a grain or two of truth in all of our bacheloresque jokes. I guess it's true that men always keep a little Dennis the Menace through the years. We need wives to keep us out of trouble http://18.104.22.168/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif
12-29-2000, 03:55 PM
Juro, I figured that ,but as you know you can never really tell with e-mails and I just didn't want someone who did not know me to think That I really meant it all,of course you are right there is some truth in it but the stuff about the mirror... well , and I am not sure I ever met Nathan. After all the congrats I started to think Nate was wondering about this guy.
12-29-2000, 04:29 PM
Even though we never met, I wish you all the best. Nothing is more important like sharing your lives together. Then the family comes along, and it even gets better. Congrads.
As for all you other guys and your excuses, I'm e-mailing a group notice of this thread to all your spouses.
Here's a few more excuses Nate:
Fishing equipment - It's a legitimate business expense.
Pay cash and use your work address for shipment. Never leave a paper trail.
Leave you cell phone in an obvious place at home when you go fishing. That way they can't contact you during a bliz and tell you to come home.
Best wishes.... Ray
12-29-2000, 05:55 PM
Geez, I was inspired by John's wisdom and tactics - then he tells us he's only kidding.
12-29-2000, 08:40 PM
You know, since I am getting married in August You could all use the excuse that the mono clave is a bachlor party for a dear friend and not just another fishing trip and that I would be broken hearted if you didn't show up. And yes juro two days before the ceremony I am taking a float trip to the Green river for trophy browns.
12-30-2000, 05:35 PM
Fred, on second thought I was only kidding that I was kidding!
12-30-2000, 05:51 PM
Congratulations on your impending nuptials. I'm afraid I've little to add beyond what's been proferred here. One thing I did was marry the daughter of a real outdoor/fishing fanatic... Sounds like you may have that covered already...
12-30-2000, 10:34 PM
Condolences. http://22.214.171.124/images/flytalk/Wilk.gif Buy a boat NOW!
Marrying my wife was the best thing that ever happened to me. Being blessed with two children is more than I could have asked for.
I wish you & your fiance the best of luck.
My advice re: fishing is to let her know ahead of time that you plan on being gone every Saturday of the season, make up for it during the weekend & off- season.
Now, I have to go tie some flies before she finds me and makes m finish hanging the moulding in the family room - DOH!