01-08-2006, 02:41 AM
Hokahay boys, my Dad paseed away on New Years Eve and we had a daylong celebration of his life today. I post this not because my Father passed away but because you all are part of the community that I as his son are a part of, and I felt that too not share the joy of his passing was to slight you all of this uplifting and heartfelt event.
My Mother and all of my siblings are doing well and having a great time reliving all the great times we shared in the Outside in Washington Oregon and Alaska fishing and hunting and struggling to get by.
God Bless George.
As a son who has lost his father as well, I don't find this in any way inappropriate to post. In fact the celebration of his life you mention is exactly what led me away from grief.
I could not avoid the inevitable regret for the things I did not do while there was time; it's never easy, but as you point out we honor them by celebrating their lives not by mourning their passing which we do for ourselves.
I am no spring chicken myself so will also honor my father by living the best I can, becoming the best man I can, and leaving plenty of reasons for my loved ones to celebrate even after my passing.
My condolences to your family and thanks for this moment of clarity
01-08-2006, 12:46 PM
Thanks for sharing. And thanks for including me in that community.
I find myself remembering and thinking of things my recently-passed dad told me or did fairly often. These memories are often quite unanticipated and spontaneous and always leave me feeling fortunate to be able to have them.
I wish I could have been there to hear all those stories about George. Hopefully, you'll share some this spring and I'll tell you about the gray whale that befriended my dad and the Trygve and perhaps another one or two. That river mouth at the end the skiff ride would be perfect. I think we should build a fire on the beach at night.
01-08-2006, 10:51 PM
Thank you for sharing with us. I lost my Dad 3 yrs ago and every time I go to the river I think of him. He handed me an old bamboo rod and a few flies when I was 7 yrs old (1958) and we went fishing. I have been addicted ever since. My thoughts are with you and your family. Sincerely, Gene.
God Bless George.
And God Bless our friend Moonlight too.
01-09-2006, 11:12 AM
A tip of the flask to him and his memory!
01-09-2006, 11:16 AM
Condolences to you and your family, and wishes for continuing fond memories.
01-09-2006, 06:36 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss. It struck a chord. My father left me his hole in the river last March, but he did so with such phenomenal grace and eloquence that it was almost like he never left. My brothers and I still scratch our heads, wondering how he snuck away so quietly with a minimum of fuss.
We talk about his passage with awe and wonderment rather then with the anguish and chest beating that sometimes accompanies a Western death.
I just finished a story that I presented to all of my brothers for Christmas. It was my attempt to come to terms with his passage. If you PM me with your e-mail address, I'd be happy to send you a copy.
Same to anyone else on the forum who would like to read a REQUIEM FOR A FISHERMAN.
01-09-2006, 11:14 PM
Sorry to hear about your loss. Peace be with you and your family.